There are those who express themselves better through writing to begin with. Whatever your desires and goals are, I think on some level it be of great use to you to even just note that down, on paper or in your mind. Many introverts are heavy thinkers, and sharing your thoughts will naturally make them think about things too. Age is and can be a factor to many, no doubt about that, but depending on your own preferences, don't be afraid to look on beyond what is generally perceived as acceptable. It is after all just an opinion even if there are many benefits to find someone close to your own range.
Even if you lack experience in some areas, you likely can provide comfort and security in others, which is why you will be able to appeal to those who are both younger and older.
Overall I would strongly suggest you to have a positive attitude, even if you may feel shy. There are many ways to go about your situation, I'd say it greatly depends on your preferences.
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All that I'm familiar with tells me that you have options, it will take effort sure, but most things in life worth pursuing does. I never expect things to be handed to me, and I'm sure you are willing to put in the required work too. Learn how to flirt. Do you have non computer related hobbies? Do you have non computer or work related friends? Maybe women in their 30s are ready for a nice guy but unless you try Do you go to church, go hiking, what I'm asking is - what do you do in your spare time?
Unless you're willing to do what it takes to change your life. The good news is it's not too late. By acquiring the knowledge you need and taking massive action, you too can have what you want. To me, that would also be good news. That I have the opportunity to grow and develop as a person. Best of luck to you. Originally Posted by bp A lot of work will have to be put in OP. And yes, you will be judged by women of all ages for your inexperience. Originally Posted by BronzeAgeJaeger Originally Posted by lino. There is good reason for this and it doesn't take much thinking to work out why.
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Originally Posted by MidKnightDreams. Originally Posted by Satu. You can radically change your appearance if you want. You can totally change your dress style. Yet another mark on the "Love Shack bed post" of men of a certain age not having dated, had sex, etc with a woman. Seems to be a trending thing going on around here.
Women can sense men who lack confidence from a mile away. Maybe you should work on your appearance, not for anybody else, but for you Use a couple of days a week to work out, if you're not comfortable at the gym, go running or hiking, or exercise at home. Get a new haircut and trendier glasses. Start doing things that make you feel happier about yourself and feel good about yourself, I think you will find it will shine throughout you and your attitude and women notice things like that.
And stop reading those books people write about 'attracting chicks' they won't work for you because it's not your usual personality, being somebody you clearly are not will make you look and feel more awkward. All times are GMT The time now is 1: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number. Ask them about themselves, that helps get the conversation going.
Hi Doolhof and Geoff, thank you for your replies. My opportunities to meet women have been quite limited. I live in a rural mining town in QLD. Like most mining towns pretty much the whole social scene revolves around drinking alcohol and partying on the weekend. Last year I met a girl whom I really liked a lot. We became good friends and I really wanted get to know her better as a person. I had high hopes that she really liked me too and I had plans to muster up the courage and ask her on a date.
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Just as I was about to do that she met someone else and refuses to talk to me now and treats me like I don't exist, which really hurt me a lot. Why that is I have no idea. When I would get close to a girl and express my feelings I was always met with rejection with the same old line: This whole thing has battered my self-esteem. Apart from work, I rarely leave the house and I just don't have the passion for life I once had.
I'm convinced no girl would possibly want to be with me, so why put myself out there and risk getting hurt like I have time after time. Plus, it's safe to say that most women won't want anything to do with a guy who hasn't even been kissed at the age of I'm so sorry I seem to have been unaware you had made a reply!
I am so very sorry for the lack of communication! I haven't been feeling myself lately due to some unwanted side effects with medication and then needing to come off them. Anyway, besides all of that, how are you getting on? Have you managed to get out of your home recently to join in some social events?
Do you have any hobbies or interests that you could become involved in? Are there groups in town you might like to join? Are there nice restaurants about the place? Places to go for a picnic or a walk? Can you invite a small group of people to join you in some kind of activity you would enjoy? Have you tried dating sites at all? I have no idea at all about them either, but all the ads on t. Having people not answer you back here on this forum can't be helping you feel good about yourself either, so I am very sorry about that!
Dude, you are not alone! I'm a year older than you and have had next to no action either! Part of that was because I only really discovered my sexuality a few years ago little slow on the uptake but still -- when it comes to intimacy I'm a complete novice! And that weighed on me for a loooong time.
But you know what?
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It's not a big deal. Life works in mysterious ways All these guys you've referenced, who sleep around with countless women? Prob not gonna ever find that someone special! I have friends like that, who focus so heavily on the number of girls they can pull - and I think to myself, Are they happy though?
I'm 35 and I've never had a girlfriend. What am I doing wrong?
You seem like a really decent, intelligent dude. Learn to love yourself! Be comfortable in your own skin. Soon you might start radiating confidence! Humour yourself, you might be surprised by what happens. My parents met when they were in their late twenties, and neither of them had had a relationship before. And they're still the happiest couple I know. Focus on yourself, your interests and your goals, and trust that the other side of things will work itself out ;. What you wrote caught my attention and since I'm older, allow me to share some advise into the issues from my life experiences.
I am 56, single, lived on my own all my life, have no children and never been married, so I do understand what you are feeling. First of all, can I please advise you not to try any of those internet dating sites. So forget internet dating for now. It's not the way to go and it will only lower your self esteem from being rejected and that's not what you want at this stage. Have you tried joining a social group? Depending on where you live, most areas will have a social groups which consist of a vast range of activities that attract singles of all ages.
Once you get involved, you will meet people and the idea is to build up a social network of friends, whether it be male or female friends, it doesn't matter. Once you get to know people you get to meet and go out with other people from outside the social group. If you meet a girl that your not interested in, just be friends and you will meet more people from having friends.